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Good Fathers 7 Sep 14

Good Fathers

What are a couple of good things you remember your father doing with you or for you? For most of us we won't be able to stop at a couple of things. Memories will provoke other memories, some as recent as this week (if our father is still alive) some as long ago as we can remember.

Fathers are all different. And each is different at different stages of his life. But good fathers have some things in common.

You can rely on them. They are kind of stable and strong on the inside. They seem to weather the assaults of teenagers that know too much, and the boisterousness of boys who have too much energy, and even the peculiarities of daughters.


They love you. But in a sort of practical way. Not too much show. Certainly not too much sentiment.

They love your mother. They keep on loving her. They show their boys how a wife is to be loved. They show their daughters how their husbands are to love them.

They love God. Well, not all of our fathers love God. But the good ones do. Loving God makes a huge difference to being a father. The difference is that there are two fathers to learn from. All of us have learned both good and bad from our natural fathers. When the Father of the Lord Jesus becomes our father we learn his love, and patience, and wisdom. More than that he gives us the Spirit of his Son (this applies to mothers too of course).

Once we know we are children of that Father we can talk to him, and ask his help. And just as it happened with our natural father, we start to act like him. We grow up thinking like him, and more and more become like him.

And in turn we pass on that wisdom and character to our own children. They in turn will have good memories not only of their natural father but of his Father whom they saw in his life and character and actions. That will be worth remembering. And being thankful for.


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